Friday morning, many Malaysians woke up to a piece of heart-breaking news: Chester Bennington has died.
The body of the Linkin Park lead singer was reportedly found hanging at a private residence in Palos Verdes Estates in what US authorities have classified as a suicide.
The 41-year-old had reportedly struggled for years with drug and alcohol abuse, and has even talked about suicide after growing up as a victim of child abuse.
His death sent shockwaves around the world, with fans and fellow celebrities expressing disbelief when the news leaked out.
As we continue to mourn the death of one of the greatest vocalists of this generation, here are five things we learnt:
1) Cheerful people sometimes aren't the most happy
Chester might be smiling a lot in interviews prior to his death, but that doesn't mean that he was truly happy. Only he himself and those close to him know the demons he had to fight every day. According to psychologists, there are those who suffer from 'smiling depression'. They would use their smile as some sort of a defence mechanism
, masking their depression and negative thoughts. So, the next time you see your always-cheerful friend, do not automatically assume that he's happy. Check up on them once in a while. Ask them how they've been. They might need you more than you think.
2) Depression can happen to anyone
It doesn't matter if you're young or old, famous or just an ordinary human being; depression can happen to anyone and it's no laughing matter. If you or you know someone who has shown signs of depression, never be afraid to ask for help. Talk to your family or your closest friends. Or alternatively, you can always talk to the Befrienders
at 03-79568144 or 03-79568145. Just remember that you're not alone, 'kay?
3) People are sometimes quick to judge
Just days after Chester's passing, people were quick to condemn his actions, saying that he was "selfish
" for "taking the cowardly way out". Although their arguments have some valid points, it's human nature to judge someone who doesn't think the same way they do. And to be honest, we're guilty of that too sometimes. Everyone has their own opinion and they do things their own certain way, so do not judge them for living their lives they way they want to. While it's easy to sit behind a keyboard and judge people's actions, don't. You do not know the struggles they are going through, and you certainly do not have the right to judge someone else's life.
4) There are always signs
The lyrics to the song "Heavy" makes much more sense now that Chester's gone, huh? We might not have paid it any mind then, but it could've been Chester's call for help. According to Suicideline.org
, those who are thinking about ending their own lives will usually leave signs and clues to show that they are troubled. It could be small, insignificant signs like he's stopped ordering his favourite food at the mamak, or big ones like she's started picking up a worrisome drinking habit and talking about committing suicide. When you notice such symptoms, it's time to step in. They are always signs; you just need to pay attention to them.
5) They'll only appreciate you when you're gone
We know this sounds harsh, but it's kinda true. We often neglect those who are close to us because of silly little reasons like: 'Aiya, I see her every other weekend lah
, why do I need to see her today? or 'Johor so far, I'll go back three months later lah
'. Life is extremely short, so do not let silly excuses prevent you from showing your appreciation to your loved ones. Hug and tell your parents you love them, surprise your partner with a dream vacation, treat your friends to a meal; you'll never know when they will leave you for good.
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