It doesn't matter how they ask it. They can be subtle or straight to the point, gentle or plain hurtful, but the fact is, our elders, who once forbade us to look, let alone think of the opposite sex during our school days are now at our heels, begging for us to settle down!
We are at the top of our game right now. We’re free to go wherever we desire and do what we want without having to worry about being tied down. Heck, our lives have barely begun so no way are we going to give up our days of independence. We’re just not ready to put that rock on our finger. Uh-uh. But how do we deflect the dreaded question from our well-meaning elders? Here at Hello, we’ve come up with sure-fire ways to stop them from questioning us once and for all:
A. The Tai Chi Way
Hah. That’s right, act dumb and push the responsibility to your significant other.
“Let’s talk about my promotion / new job instead” This usually works.
B. Miss Independent / Independent Man
“So far, every other guy/girl I’ve met has failed to impress”
C. It’s All About The Money, Money, Money
“I want to own a car / a house / a yacht / etc first”
Yes….keep adding something new to the list.
D. The Honest Truth
“I haven’t met the right one yet” Like duh.
E. Burn Baby, Burn
“I don’t know. Why are you still married?”
“I’m in love with myself”
Tread these lines with caution though. You might just end up getting kicked out of the house. And if the elders keep asking despite what you tell them, then maybe you can learn some disappearing tricks. Or simply pretend not to hear them. In all honesty, they only want what’s best for you; but only you yourself will know when the right time comes to truly settle down and start a family of your own. Till then…good luck, chill out and don’t let the pressure get to you.
Join Denise Chan on the first episode of WTF (What the feed?) as she talks to our special guests Mark O’dea and Sharifah Aryana about #MillennialsKillingMarriage.